Dirty talk is serious. It’s hard to do it right if you are not used to it, and it’s easy to screw up big if you do it wrong.
But all men should know it. When things are getting really hot in the bedroom, talking dirty can get the atmosphere reach a whole new level. It’s not something to do every night, but it’s certainly a good skill to have in hand.
Following are a few tips to get you started in dirty talking.
1- Dirty Talk Shouldn’t Be Spontaneous.
You should be talking all through the intercourse. If you are mute all along and then burst with some dirty talk, you risk looking creepy, strange or just unnatural.
Don’t get me wrong – chatting during sex is not the same as if you were having a coffee, but it’s vital to have a smooth communication between you two. If you never speak, the dirty talk will look forced. If you do speak, it will come naturally.
As for the talk itself, try to be sensual. Speak directly into her ear, or do it while gently kissing her all around. Speak low and softly – but go further as the arousal continues to grow.
2- Tell Your Partner What You’ll Do.
If you plan to try a new position, a particular move or a new technique you have learned, go ahead and tell her. Tell her what you have in mind, and tell her that you are sure that it will rock her world.
Be graphic if you want – quoting James Bond, tell her “what you can do with ‘this’ little finger” – and be specific about what you want her to do. Tell her to put her legs at some place, the head at another, etc.
Speak in a way that will power her imagination – and speak to all her senses.
3- Tell Your Partner What You Want Her to Do to YOU.
Exploring your partner’s fantasies is great – but never as good as making her fulfill yours.
You shouldn’t wait for your partner to ask what you like – just let her know. Speak about your fantasies, fetishes and what would make your experience spectacular. Tell her how that would not only make your sex better, but hers too.
If you give, then asking to receive won’t be selfish. Just do it in a seductive manner.
4- Know Your Limits.
Know how far you can go – and stick to the limit. You should know what your partner will consider sexy and what she’ll find creepy or scary. Don’t set the limits too low or too high, and test them once a while.
All girls are different, and what some will find sexy, others will find scary. Calibrate accordingly, but follow your line.
