Dirty Talk

Dirty talk is serious. It’s hard to do it right if you are not used to it, and it’s easy to screw up big if you do it wrong.

But all men should know it. When things are getting really hot in the bedroom, talking dirty can get the atmosphere reach a whole new level. It’s not something to do every night, but it’s certainly a good skill to have in hand.

Following are a few tips to get you started in dirty talking.

1- Dirty Talk Shouldn’t Be Spontaneous.

You should be talking all through the intercourse. If you are mute all along and then burst with some dirty talk, you risk looking creepy, strange or just unnatural.

Don’t get me wrong – chatting during sex is not the same as if you were having a coffee, but it’s vital to have a smooth communication between you two. If you never speak, the dirty talk will look forced. If you do speak, it will come naturally.

As for the talk itself, try to be sensual. Speak directly into her ear, or do it while gently kissing her all around. Speak low and softly – but go further as the arousal continues to grow.

2- Tell Your Partner What You’ll Do.

If you plan to try a new position, a particular move or a new technique you have learned, go ahead and tell her. Tell her what you have in mind, and tell her that you are sure that it will rock her world.

Be graphic if you want – quoting James Bond, tell her “what you can do with ‘this’ little finger” – and be specific about what you want her to do. Tell her to put her legs at some place, the head at another, etc.

Speak in a way that will power her imagination – and speak to all her senses.

3- Tell Your Partner What You Want Her to Do to YOU.

Exploring your partner’s fantasies is great – but never as good as making her fulfill yours.

You shouldn’t wait for your partner to ask what you like – just let her know. Speak about your fantasies, fetishes and what would make your experience spectacular. Tell her how that would not only make your sex better, but hers too.

If you give, then asking to receive won’t be selfish. Just do it in a seductive manner.

4- Know Your Limits.

Know how far you can go – and stick to the limit. You should know what your partner will consider sexy and what she’ll find creepy or scary. Don’t set the limits too low or too high, and test them once a while.

All girls are different, and what some will find sexy, others will find scary. Calibrate accordingly, but follow your line.

Kegel Exercises

Until very recently, doing Kegel Exercises was something only women would do. Originally thought to tighten loose vaginas, the Kegel exercises have evolved to become the most effective way of stopping premature ejaculation.

For men, these exercises concentrate on the pubococcygeus muscle (the “PC Muscle”). This is a small muscle in behind the scrotum, that worked out can block ejaculation. You can easely identify where your PC Muscle is by trying to stop the flow of urine half way.

Practicing the Kegel Exercises

It’s really easy to do the Kegel Exercises. All you need to do is to contract and release the PC Muscle in quick successions. Beginners should start by doing 15 to 20 contractions and taking a rest after. After a few minutes, repeat the same until you complete three series.

The best thing about the Kegels is that you can do it everywhere. You don’t need to be naked – you can do it while sitting in your computer, on the bus or even while you are talking on the phone. There are few places where you can’t do the kegels.

As with everything that matters, what makes the difference here is consistency. If you want to have a strong PC Muscle, you should exercise Kegels every day for at least three to four weeks. Thankfully, the exercises are that easy that there’s no excuse for you to skip them.

Once you get more experience and a better control of your PC Mucle, you can start with advanced Kegel exercises. The advanced exercises are still simple – they are only a more intensive variation of the training. For example, for every contraction, try to hold at least twice as long, and then more and more.

Show Me the Benefits

The benefits of these simple exercises are huge.

A long and deep contraction of your PC Muscle during orgasm can stop ejaculation (ever wondered what was the secret to being multi-orgasmic? There you go.) Also, a well-worked PC Muscle can also help you achieve stronger and longer erections.

It may look like too much for just a small muscle – but it works. I’ve been practicing these exercises for more than two years now and I’m not exaggerating if I say they changed my sexual life. You’ll need time, dedication and perseverance, but the price at the end is too big to miss.

Get that work-out going and remember – in only a few weeks you could see gigantic results out of this simple exercise.