Don’t Keep All the Eggs in One Basket

You must have heard that wise, wise idiom at least once, right? It usually is applied to everything -from jobs applications, friendships, studies and whatever path you choose for your life. And guess what – dating is not the exception.

The premise is simple: you shouldn’t put all your might and energy to work for just one outcome. In dating terms, it’s not a good idea to focus only and only on just ONE girl. It’s always a better option to have one or two others in stand-by or at least hovering around your mind.

Right now I’m single – if you could call it that way. I don’t have a real girlfriend but I’m dating this girl instead. She’s cool and I feel great around her – I really don’t need someone else. But I still always have at least a couple of girls that I could call right now and would go out with me for a drink.

These girls are never the same – they keep changing. After all, few, if any, girls will wait for you forever. As we say in Argentina, be cordial and nice with them but leave them in the freezer. The sole thought that you could go out with them immediately after a fight or break up will impact you positively.

There are two reasons behind this.

1- You’ll Be More Confident

You really will, and it will come naturally. You probably won’t speak (or not even think) about the other girls if you are in a fight or discussion. But deep in your mind, you’ll know that you have somewhere to back off if things fail. You’ll have an advantage – and you’ll make it feel.

Being sure about yourself doesn’t only mean you’ll win conflicts. Most cases, this feeling of security will make you directly avoid or take the drama out of potential conflicts.

Think about girls (and about everyone else in life) as vampires – vampires who smell weakness and will try to take advantage of it. If a girl sees you weak, she’ll try to make you concede in relationships issues, dating, etc. – it’s a process people do sometimes even unconsciously. If you are strong willed, she’ll avoid it.

2- You’ll Have a Plan B

Having a Plan B is never wrong. You won’t be a bad boyfriend or a bad person if you have other girls waiting for you. You’ll only be doing yourself a favor.

Your goal as a good boyfriend or lover is to give all your attention and love to your girlfriend. Make her feel other girls don’t exist – make her feel she’s the only one for you. It’s the same when you are dating someone.

But remember – having a Plan B is not about dating someone else. It’s about having the sure possibility of doing so if you wish to. No one could possibly think of this as cheating, right?

So, single or not, always think about multiplying your possibilities. It’s better to have choice – just for the choice itself. Not putting all your eggs (all your possibilities) in just one basket will give you this choice. Work for it.

Girls’ Attraction Signals II

Girls will let you know when they find you interesting. Sometimes it will be direct, but usually, instead, they’ll make sex signals and wait for you to catch up. Watch out for them – most times they mean you are on for business.

Neck Stroking

The neck is one of girl’s most sensitive and erogenous zones. Gently kiss them in the neck and you’ll immediately understand what I’m talking about – the neck is big deal.

Many speculate on the reasons, and the most accepted is that the neck has one of the softest and smoothest skins in the whole body. While some other places (especially down there) might beat the neck’s prowess, what makes the neck so appealing is that it is the most socially acceptable to display.

Stimulating the neck can give girls gentle, loving but also deep emotions. If they are exposing and highlighting their neck, girls are elegantly and in a non-gross way saying “come and get me.”

Toying and Object Stroking

There are many psychologists who believe that people transfer their inner feelings to external objects.Girls are not the exception, and, according to this theory, when girls stroke a wine glass, for example, they are telling you “stroke me”. Same, when they run a pen across their lips, they are telling you “kiss me.” Watch out for this stroking – most times it will mean something.

You should not confuse it, however, with the ‘agitation’ gestures. These don’t mean you are on the right track – they mean that the girl is just somewhere else. You can differentiate between the good and bad toying easily: slow and sensual is good. Fast and reckless is bad.

Pointing With Her Knees

When girls point you with their knees and legs, feel chosen. This is the action she uses to indicate that you are the one she is interested in. It’s one way for the girl to close a barrier on you – a personal triangle, and a way to show you that you have all her focus. The more of the leg exposed, the more sexual the signal becomes.

In the same way, legs and knees pointing away usually are a bad sign. It will mean she’s uninterested, and will serve as an invitation for other men around.

Touching Herself

Quite obvious and no surprise – when girls start to touch themselves, it usually means something. Usually, it’s an unconscious signal meaning they want you to touch them. Normally girls will draw your attention to what they believe are their best assets: thighs, neck, legs and even the breasts. It’s a sure way for them to scale to the next level.

But watch out – girls know how much this affects men and might well do it deliberately. Learn to spot the difference between the conscious and subconscious touching, as the latter is the one who reliably indicates the woman’s feelings.